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It would be wonderful to say that everyone and anyone should adopt. In a perfect world, that would be true. However, we do not live in a perfect world.
The truth is that adoption is a very important, major step in a couple's relationship and in their life, one that must be carefully thought out with all angles and possibilities considered.
Adoption is a legal matter involving a couple (or in some cases a single person) and a pregnant woman. The pregnant woman does not want her child, and she, legally, turns all rights and responsibilities over to the new parents.
There are many ways to adopt a child, including
1. an adoption agency
2. a pregnant friend or family member
3. a private or 'church based' resource center.
An adoption agency is a business which is, typically, operated for profit. Therefore this option will be the most expensive. The usual fees for adoption through a private agency are from $15,000 to $30,000. These fees are in addition to the expectant mother's medical fees and room and board for the mother during her pregnancy and delivery. This method provides the appropriate legal advice and the filing of forms and provisions for the adoption.
A pregnant friend or family member is the easiest way to adopt a child, however, emotionally speaking, it is sometimes the most difficult. The child is aware, usually, from the beginning, that he or she is adopted. This creates a feeling of rebellion in some children, with an 'easy way out' if they rebel against discipline, family goals and values, or plans. This type of adoption is usually based more on hardship than desire for a new child.
Some religious organizations offer crisis centers for young, pregnant women, in exchange for the right to place the child for adoption (if adoption is the woman's choice). The 'church' then finds a suitable couple (usually from a waiting list) and the interviews begin. This option is difficult due to many provisions, restrictions and intense regulations. Usually a couple must either be a member of the church, or agree to convert in order to be eligible. The couple also signs an agreement that they will raise the child in that religion. This is strict and difficult for those parents who are not religious, or who are different religions. This type of adoption is usually best for young couples who can not conceive and can not afford the high rates of a private adoption agency.
Anyone who has financial resources, an adequate job and home, and love to give should consider adoption. However, it's important to remember that adoption, as previously stated, is not for everyone.
Anyone who is unsettled in there life, unsure of whether or not they even want children, and anyone who is doing it for their spouse. Everyone involved in the adoption has to be 100% sure of the decision and the choices being made. It makes the future for one child that much healthier, happier and secure.
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